Tom Whitfield
3 Apr 2026
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Not a crisis post. A calm one. I am tired and I want to know how people decided either way.
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Nine years in and I am thinking about stopping
6 replies
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Helena Duplessis
4 Apr 2026
The question that helped me was not "is this working" but "what would I be doing instead, and do I want it". If the answer to the second is nothing specific, that is worth sitting with.
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Lorraine Petit
6 Apr 2026
Nobody talks about the people who stopped and were happier. Some of them are and it is not a failure.
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Nicole Trahan
6 Apr 2026
I stopped for three years, did something else, came back. It is not a door that locks behind you.
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Anneke Vos
6 Apr 2026
You are allowed to change what you want. Nine years of wanting something does not obligate you to want it forever.
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Duncan Yeo
6 Apr 2026
A calm version of this question is a good sign, whichever way you go. It is the panicked ones at 3am that produce bad decisions.
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Ken Vasquez
7 Apr 2026
I thought about it at year nine too. Stayed. Year eleven was the best I have had. That is not advice, it is just one data point.
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